IAM831- Spiritual Life Coach Focuses on Individuals’ Fullness

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00:02 – Intro

Do you want to learn effective ways to build relationships, generate sales, and grow your business from successful entrepreneurs, startups, and CEOs without listening to a long, long, long interview? If so, you've come to the right place. Gresham Harkness values your time and is ready to share with you precisely the information you're in search of. This is the I AM CEO podcast.

00:30 – Gresham Harkless:

Hello. Hello. Hello. This is Gresh from the I AM CEO podcast and we have a very special guest on the show today. We have Tina Darlington-Samson of Crossing Time Coaching. Tina, it's awesome to have you on the show.

00:39 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Thank you so much, Gresh, and I am so thrilled to be here with you today.

00:44 – Gresham Harkless

I'm thrilled as well to have you on the show. You're doing so much awesome work and what I wanted to do was just read a little bit more about Tina so you can hear about all the awesome things that she's doing. And Tina is a certified spiritual life coach and the founder of Crossing Time Coaching. Tina began a budding career in Washington DC where she worked in diverse fields and positions from informational information technology training to human resource management. Her work in these fields afforded her the opportunity to coach and counsel a diverse population.

During the span of her 22-year career, Tina recognized her ability to engage and inspire people with her voice, her expressive style of outreach, and her strong conviction which led her to mentor and coach middle and high school girls. In 2015 in order to take her passion for helping others to the next level she sharpened her skills by completing an intensive spiritual life coach training program in 2018 and launched Crossing Time Coaching, a holistic life coach business focusing on the fullness of who we are as individuals. Her goal is to help individuals make breakthroughs that lead to empowerment and fulfillment for purposeful living. Tina, are you ready to speak to the I AM CEO community?

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01:44 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Yes, I am I am here and ready to go.

01:47 – Gresham Harkless

Awesome. Awesome. Awesome. It's good to hear all the awesome things you're doing and reading your bio got me so jazzed up. So I wanted to rewind the clock a little bit here, a little bit more on how you got started. Could you take us through what I call your CEO story? Well, then you can start with this.

01:57 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Absolutely, Gresh. And so much of it is highlighted as brief as it sounds in that bio or it could be not as brief to some people who read it. However, it goes into the heart of the business who I am and how my story started, which was over 20-plus years ago. It began really in the bedroom of my home with my sister-in-law, who was visiting from California during the holidays, we were talking, and she stopped me in the middle of the conversation, she said, Tina, you know, you are a life coach. And I stopped and said, a life coach. I mean, I had never heard that word before. I had no idea.

And she said, because every time I talk to you, you uplift me, you inspire me, you motivate, you help bring me back into the things that are truly important in our lives, and you shape it always in truth and also with an understanding. It may not be easy, but you know, things that aren't easy are what make us better and stronger. And this is what life coaches do. They listen to the other person and help them on their journey of what they want to do. And I honestly, Gresh, just listened closely and said, well, OK, knew nothing about a lab coach. And I really didn't think to go out and research it any further beyond that point. I had very young sons at that point. And I knew I was just a fortune ahead as a mother and wife, and I was a professional in my field. And at that time doing technology training in law firms throughout the DMV area.

So now we fast forward to 20-plus years later, and it was around the mid-20s in my position at the law firm I'm currently still in, is that I recognized I was really no longer managing my staff in a typical way. I was beginning to really counsel and coach them. And that word coach came to me from my manager. He brought it back up to my attention again and said, Tina, you're doing a really good job on how you're coaching your staff now. So all of a sudden, this conversation came pouring back into me and I realized, wait a minute, when I did the homework and I did the research about what is a life coach, That's exactly what I had become unbeknownst to me at the time, and I wasn't labeling it as such.

I started reading, took myself to school, and did an intensive coaching session at the Light Purpose Institute in San Diego, California, which is really 1 of the trailblazing schools for coaches and it's under the helms of firm Gorin who started and she's done some amazing work in the coaching field so I learned from the best became certified 1 of the best schools in the country and from there just applied it back into my full-time position, but then crossing time coaching was rooted in me. The passion began that, you know what, this is my next. So I'm preparing myself for my next. Hence was the inception of crossing time coaching.

04:46 – Gresham Harkless

Nice. I absolutely love that. And it's so funny you say that because I often say and often believe that even with what I'm doing now, I often went back to when I was a lot younger and sometimes you have those seeds that are planted and it's maybe not ready to be watered or maybe not ready to bloom yet, but you still have those seeds. And I think even Steve Jobs has this commencement speech that he gives where he says a lot of times in your life, you can't automatically know exactly how everything's gonna line up. But sometimes when you look at those dots, you turn back and look at those dots, you can see how everything aligns and how it gets you to where you are now.

05:16 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Yes, well said. I love that. And it's absolutely right. I totally agree with it. And in all, in hindsight, you look back, and you reflect and go, wow. So I love how you said, Gresh, the seed, exactly. And then it's being watered throughout, and then it comes into bloom when you're ready for it, too, I believe, When you're ready.

05:34 – Gresham Harkless

Yeah, and absolutely. And the beautiful thing about it is just like, I think you said, your sister said, we all have our separate and our own unique seeds and we can only water them as best as we can but no 1 can water them like we can. So I absolutely love that. And I know you touched on it a little bit and I did as well too when I read your bio. Could you take us through exactly what you're doing with Crossing Time Coaching and how you're supporting the clients you work with?

05:56 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Absolutely. You know, Crossing Time Coaching really was birthed out of my spirit as wanting to offer life coaching services to individuals. But because I also do a lot of professional development in my other role in my other position, I do a lot of career coaching as well. And in conjunction with that transitional coaching. So that's the crux of this type of service that we offer in the coaching arena at Crossing Time Coaching. However, the unique thing about us is that I'm going to approach my coaching conversations from, as my bio said, a holistic perspective because we're created in mind, body, spirit, and soul. And if that's who we are comprised of as individuals as people,

then I want to approach whatever it is you're trying to do for yourself, whatever goals you're setting, how we're going to identify strategies to help you meet those goals, that we may have to come into some other places that just aren't gonna be black and white. Maybe you are struggling in some areas regarding your physical health or just things emotionally, relationships, those types of things that are hindering you from meeting some of your goals or even feeling that you can accomplish those goals. So I'm going to dig a little deeper and allow us to wade into waters maybe that typically most coaches may not want to venture into. But that's the difference between crossing-time coaching and working with me is that I'm bringing it in from a spiritual perspective.

07:20 – Gresham Harkless

Nice, I absolutely love that and I think that you know so many times we try to sometimes do it within ourselves but sometimes even the people around us put people into silos and not look at that holistic aspect so that's why you know I love you know everything that you're doing and you know what you stand for even that you touched on, you know, how you even did it with the team that you had to at the law firm because I think I'm literally looking at this book called it's the manager that you know we had on our CEO bookshelf and you know it's literally on my bookshelf right now. It talked about how the great leaders are those coaches, are the people that are really able to dial into not just one aspect of what you have to do but realize that all of it is overlapping, one supports the other, and it's really hard to separate 1 from the other because it all is holistically what makes us who we are.

08:05 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Absolutely. Yes. Yes, and I wrote the name of that book down. It's the manager.

08:09 -Gresham Harkless

Yes, absolutely. And I'll send you the link. We had it on our bookshelf. It's a phenomenal book by Clifton and Hartner. So really phenomenal read. And so I know you touched on, do you feel like that holistic aspect in the way that you look and how you work with your clients is what is your secret sauce and the thing you feel sets you apart?

08:28 – Tina Darlington Sampson

It is absolutely the secret sauce. And I love your USP, your unique selling proposition. That's it. It's all grounded in that because it was very intentional, Gresh, as far as what type of coaching certification I was going to, as you're probably very familiar with. And those who might listen to this are coaches themselves, I mean, we have a plethora of coaches out there whose niche is in different areas that suit them best, where they feel the strongest and most capable and experienced to speak from. From your activity coaches to your health coaches, to all different business coaches, and executives, there's this, we can identify with ourselves within our own places of being a coach and then that arena where we can really focus our attention. And because of the person that I am and how I conduct my life and believe the spiritual life coach certification just immediately connected with me.

And when I read, you know, the depth of the course content and what I would learn, and then the expectation of how you're going to coach from that angle, I knew it was for me. I knew that was it because it is rooted in faith in how I approach our coaching sessions and your faith may not be what mine is however I respect where you are and vice versa but I know how I can shape my coaching conversations and with you because then I know exactly where you are in your faith and you have some understanding of where I am and we're connecting at a spiritual level because many times, Gresh, I believe the, one of the best ways for us to overcome our issues, our concerns, our hurts, our pains, whatever it is we're dealing with in our lives is through our faith and the things that we can do with ourselves spiritually to increase and enhance that part of ourselves. So that is my USP, the Secret Sauce at Crossing Time Coaching.

10:13 – Gresham Harkless

I wanted to switch gears a little bit and I want to ask you for what I call a CEO hack. So this could be like an Apple Book or a habit that you have, but what's something that makes you more effective and efficient?

10:23 – Tina Darlington Sampson

I just am not going to fall into the typical way of how some may answer the question of hack. But again, as I said, being true to who I am and the authenticity of the person that I am. And I just know that reads my life is that mine will be a book and it is the Bible. This is my source of life. This is my life source of how I make decisions, conduct my life, and make my life choices. And, you know, I highly respect the additional resources that are also available to me through the gifts of other people. And I will tell you, a book that I read recently, and you may know of this book, The One Thing by Gary Keller, oh my gosh, one of them,

I mean, you know, I like to read and I am blown away by this book. I'm actually referring it to my clients now, my co-cheese. If there's one book you want to read this year, it is this book, The One Thing. It is phenomenal. You may have some understanding, an idea about how Gary is approaching this with his co-author, Jay Papason, but he really makes you hone in and take stock and stop and think, What is the one thing that we could be doing every day to help ourselves to get to where we're trying to go? And he approaches it from every angle and just lays it all out.

11:40 – Gresham Harkless

I absolutely love that question. I always go back to it. And so now I want to ask you for what I call a CEO nugget. And this could be a word of wisdom or a piece of advice. It might be something you would tell a client or if you happen to be a time machine, you might tell your younger business self.

11:52 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Well, I will tell you everything that you just said. It would be for every aspect of every part of what you labeled for me, a word of wisdom for a client for everyone because I've lived this and I know what it's done and the hindrance of it. Don't delay. Just don't. Don't delay what you know you should be doing. Don't delay what your spirit has told you. You should get up and go do it. Once you know who you are, you're competent in who you are, you identify your giftings, go for it.

Don't let the voices of others stop you, or don't put up a wall of fear or intimidation because you're concerned about what others may think or feel or say about you. Don't, just don't get out of your own head and get people out of your ears who shouldn't be there and shouldn't have your attention to help distract you from doing what you know you're supposed to be doing right now. Align yourself with those who are like-minded and most importantly get yourself a mentor who will help you with whatever your mission is, whatever your vision or goal is for yourself that's going to align themselves with you and your vision and help develop you in the process. Don't delay.

12:59 – Gresham Harkless

Now, I wanted to ask you my absolute favorite question, which is the definition of what it means to be a CEO. And we're hoping to have different quote-unquote CEOs on the show. So Tina, what does being a CEO mean to you?

13:08 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Great, being a CEO to me, Gresh, is all about leadership. For me, it's leading in a spirit of truth, transparency, integrity, and authenticity. I truly appreciate that definition. Thank you, thank you so much.

13:24 – Gresham Harkless

Awesome. Awesome. Awesome. I appreciate your time even more. What I wanted to do was pass you the mic so to speak just to see if there's anything additional you can let our readers and listeners know and of course how best they can get a hold of you and find out about all the awesome things that you're working on.

13:35 – Tina Darlington Sampson

Absolutely. Well, you know, just to wind this up, Gresh, again, thank you so much for this time, this opportunity. And if people would like to reach out to us, my website is crossingtimecoaching.com. Make it very simple, the name of the company, and everything falls in sync. We're on Instagram, Crossing Time Coaching, as well as my Facebook page. And then you can reach out directly to Tina at crossingtimecoaching.com. So I wanted to keep it clean and seamless so that you wouldn't forget. You would think of CTC. That's what I break it down to And just 1 more thing that we're doing at Crossing Time Coaching If you check out our website is that we offer other services one area that is very true to my heart and dear is that we have a mentoring program for young women from 12 to 19 years old.

What we offer are a series of workshops and it's called life skills for today's young ladies. Because I believe you know what is missing in the home right now is that real understanding of just how to develop and train a young lady as she should become as a woman. And it is based on faith. And so we go through these workshops and it's just teaching them basic etiquette of, you know, table setting placements, how to present yourself, proper attire, interviewing skills for jobs, how to put a resume together, all the way from cooking lessons. I've taken it back to old school in a sense, but they're life skills of things you need to know how to do just for yourself as a person.

And we've had great success with people reaching out and so that's something else I always like to just throw in as an additional resource that we are to people if you know of groups of young women that you would like to have our services come in and do these workshops Check it out and we'll talk to you. Everything's customizable for what maybe they would want us to do in our workshops. And I bring in other professional women. It's not just me, because I want our young women today to hear from others that are working in different venues of careers and they're being able to connect. If I want to be an accountant.

You know, we talk about money management in our workshops, the difference between tithing and saving and investing your money and having a checking account, and the credit aspect. So we're trying to give them all of these life skills we can, but I want them to hear other professional women's voices about it. So that's just 1 little extra thing I wanted to throw in about our services.

15:54 – Gresham Harkless

Awesome. I truly appreciate that Tina. We will have the links and information in the show notes so that everybody can follow up with you and find out about all the awesome things you're doing. And I think so many times we forget with the leadership and the platforms that we have, we have a great opportunity to be able to give to others. So I love, you know, that program and what you're doing and how you're supporting the young women so that they can be leaders and being very impactful in the world as well. So I truly appreciate you for doing that. Appreciate that reminder to all of us as well too. And I hope you have a phenomenal rest of the day.

16:22 – Outro

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